Friday, October 10, 2008

Who sets these guidelines?

  1. When you are pregnant, you must not drink coffee.
  2. When you are breastfeeding, you should not drink any caffeine or alcoholic drinks.

1) The reason I ask is because people around you take it upon themselves to enforce these rules without getting your permission first...this was something that bothered me a lot when I was pregnant because every time I ordered for coffee or asked for one people would give me the looks...do these people know that even when I was not pregnant I only had one or two cups of coffee or tea a day?? Did they also know that a few of my friend's parents had more than three cups of coffee and their kids are all normal...

I am sorry...but please whoever you are and if you chance to read my blog...and you are guilty of doing the above...please stop it...it is None Of Your business!!! A mother knows what is best for her child...it is not like she is smoking pot while taking drops of LSD and drinking Scotch on the side...she is just having coffee...When most people have kids...they are mature enough to read and understand what is good for them and their baby...if they still don't get it...believe me you are not going to change them overnight...and it is just coffee...one or two cups a day ain't harming anyone! (This is strictly IMHO...)


2) There was once this party where I was invited to...there was booze in the house...but the person who was the host...put me up for SPRITE!!! instead of wine/whiskey/rum/gin/or even the cute old COKE!!! ya SPRITE!!!!!!!! WTH...did this person ask me??? Ever??? Once? uh huh...No...I was informed that since I was breastfeeding I should only drink SPRITE!!! Really??? I don't like Sprite...I drink Sprite when I am out of all choices...I always go for coke (note: not even diet coke)...

Once again for the ignorant people...breastfeeding mom's can drink a glass of wine...it is ok...all they have to do is pump the next couple of feedings (or if you want to be extra careful pump the next few feedings) and dispose the milk...ya...that simple...not rocket science for sure! The baby can be substituted with formula...

And if the momma wants something to drink...give her what she wants...don't stand there and judge or make judgements...NOBODY ASKED YOU! Really...Mom's always know what they are doing...they never try to harm or hurt the child...there are some like those and I am not speaking for them...so please give the lady benefit of doubt...

As much as a non-alcoholic person I am it is unfortunate that I still remember it...the point was not that I was denied of a drink...the point is that I was denied of making a decision...because someone else decided that it was NORM for breastfeeding moms to drink non-cafienated drinks only...these people did not obviously do their research...Now, I am polite...so I kept quiet and smiled it away...and probably that is another reason that I am still irked about it...

Anyhoo...I have written a couple of instances...but there are many other things in which people think that is important to give their two cents on topics that they should not be involved in at all...Mature or rather grown up people can decide for themselves...unsolicited advices are often unwelcome...just like an unwelcome guest or bad taste in the mouth...Many a times we want to throw in our ideas and suggestions...but not everyone appreciates it...be sensitive...yes Be Sensitive...you might be absolutely right in what you are doing...but it might hurt someone...so be sensitive...

5 comments:

Trevor Penn said...

If by "sensitive" you mean sensible, then i understand. :-)

Btw, FWIW, i think motherhood has made you a more sensitive being. :-)

Prasanthi Neeladaran said...

Why do we bump into similar issues all the time? I bury those thoughts in me and am amazed to read y mind on your blog.....

Anu Russell said...

Shank,

No...I want them to be sensitive to the feelings of other people around...moms or not moms!!!

I think it would be too much to ask of some people to be both sensible and sensitive...

What is FWIW???

I guess...I understand more and better now...and I am trying my best not to commit the common errors anymore :)

Prasanthi

I think these are the common things that most mom's and new mom's go through...it is just unfortunate that some stupid person sets the guidelines for a PERFECT MOM and too bad that we are not able to meet it...we are what we are and in our own trying to be the perfect person we can be...we might do mistakes and trip a bit...but we are as perfect as it can get I guess :)

Trevor Penn said...

FYI, FWIW is "for what it's worth." ;-)

Anu Russell said...

Me and my friend MG were wondering and she kinda googled it and we figured it out...but thanks still :)