Wednesday, July 21, 2010

My Friend Nanda!

I have quite a few Best Friends. Ya, I know if I use the word Best, then there should only be one right? But then I have one BFF, a girl from school, one from college, I have a Dallas BFF, etc, etc...

So anyway, I have one boy BFF from Chennai. We were neighbors for a long time. He is an awesome photographer and if you have the time please do visit.

Here is the link.

Thanks
Anu

Friday, July 02, 2010

Tag Time! Gender Stereotypes!

This is a tag from Shilpa:
If you are a woman,
Have you ever wanted something that is considered ‘manly’ ? Like a basketball, a cell phone, a dog, a camera or a new laptop? A new car or motor bike? Ever wanted to be a pilot? A doctor or not a nurse? And the manliest want of them all – The remote! ;)
As a kid did you enjoy playing with a bat and a ball?
There was a time when books were considered ‘manly’, women authors had to pretend to be men – would you say books are still rather manly – women should want to embroider and crochet?
If you are a man,
Have you ever wanted something that only women are supposed to want – like bags, shoes, clothes, creams, perfumes, babies, flowers? A peaceful home and a happy family? Have you ever been afraid of the dark or of insects?
As a kid did you ever want to play ‘teacher-teacher’, cooking or did you like playing with a doll? Have you ever enjoyed cooking? Bought something in pink? Loved chocolates?
After reading IHM's tag I was torn. The first feeling I got was, bah! I don't get this at all and later I hoped that she had tagged me so I could have written some of my own instances. So when Shilpa tagged me I was super excited. I also noticed that another friend of mine also had my same initial reaction when I told her that she was also going to get tagged. Interesting.


Growing up in India, that too in a small township in Trichy and later in Chennai, I have broken many gender stereotypes. I have also suffered from many of it, which will probably be for another post if I ever decide to write it. I was always a social butterfly and I was far more into enjoying life than most others around me who were almost always quick to judge. Anyways, all that later for a rant post, let me get to the tag first.


  1. I have ridden a motorbike around Chennai quite a few times. With helmets on of course. I never wanted to be seen as a ‘girl’ riding the bike. It was my brother’s Kawasaki.
  2. I have roller-skated when I was just a little girl (early 80’s) being the only girl in the rink in our township. I was the only tennis player in our court when I was growing up. Boys used to push me aside and be mean to me until one day I just used my muscle to show that I could beat them in the game of tennis. I got respect after that.
  3. I have almost always been the only girl in bathing suit in our pool in the township. Heck, I have been the only girl in the pool itself. I have photos to prove it.
  4. I spoke with boys in Chennai, as a little girl growing up. It was a taboo those days. Boys used to visit my house, classmates, and friends, and I have had people talk ill of me behind me. Biatches!
  5. I don’t like Valentines Day.
  6. I don’t go all crazy over stuffed toys.
  7. I cannot do the baby speak. I am sorry babs you never got baby talk from me.
  8. I cannot say cho-chweet and I get annoyed when people say that to me or something mine.
  9. I love watching tennis, Formula 1 racing, and basketball and many men have given me grief assuming that I follow this only to check out the good looking guys in it! Really?!! I am sure I can kick your ass in tennis and F1 trivia for sure!
  10. I like to swear and abuse. Cuss words 
Before I finished this, I realized that I could actually list out more than 15 resons and then I toned it down to be the most common ones that made me feel annoyed or like a stranger. I grew up with boys at home and most of the time I could never understand what the big deal was!

I am tagging the following friends for following reasons, please pick it up and add the above badge to your blog as well!

Megha: Because I always want to know your opinion.
Shannah: So that I can see your point of view.
Arshiya: I would like to get a journalistic view on this.
Poorva: You are from a different generation.
Sum: I love your bird stories
Kavita: I love your cakes!


And anyone else who is ready to take up this tag! Thank you Shilpa for tagging I really enjoyed doing this one.

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