Thursday, September 08, 2011

I and We (I-V)

When I was in my undergrad I got to meet my first "I-We" person (henceforth known as I-V). When something went wrong with the idea it was a collective "we" that was used to apologize but God forbid something went right in a collective effort, it was the stand alone "I" that was used. I did not recognize this until the girl who became my BFF in college pointed it out to me. I was so naive that I did not pick up on the signals of the I-V  traits.

Later I realized that in every group there is at least one person like that. One person who does not hesitate to steal the credit or share the blame. Just knowing about the existence does not make things easier for us now, or does it? The I-V person is typically fast to respond to secure their position. They make sure that they are credited for others ideas in a public gathering or otherwise. Trying to one-up on them will only make you look like a jealous person...And what is worse? Most of these I-V people think that it is normal to do that, and never really know they are doing it...more like kleptomaniacs only that they are stealing your work/effort/talent. So in a way, they are...well you know...

Oh! The fun thing is to get two I-V people in the same group...

Just wanted to write this out. It has been bothering me a while...if you have any suggestions on how to tackle them, do write back...

Coming Soon...a post on people who blame you for their mistakes and are always ready with the blame even before the mistake is pointed out...

4 comments:

Kavita said...

Ohh Anu.. you just touched a sore point for me today.. i have been dealing with the I-V people and its a big pain pain pain in the you know where.

the best way I have found is to call them out and be like.. "but didn't you say this....." But knowing how these people are, they never own up to their faults.. but at some point, they are sure to fall in their own web of deceit!

Anu Russell said...

The one I am dealing is made of something that is very difficult for me to break into...as yet...but hopefully soon I can give her a taste of her own medicine...too bad that I can never ever lie...

Sum said...

Ohhh i too deal with such people Anu! And as you said, i too cannot lie at all and that makes it worse!
Of late in a couple of instances i have learned to pin point, in their exact words, why the issue occurred. And i own up my faults too, openly, loud and clear, when there are any. So atleast others know that i do own up my faults and am NOT READY to share others'!! Works among ppl at home may be, but not sure otherwise...

debajyoti said...

hehehehe. loved it. ain't they annoying? i ignore such ppl but it's always not possible to ignore them.

u asked for suggestion so i m giving one stupid suggestion :D - if u have an altercation with those ppl just wear a sardonic smile on ur face and laugh out loud whenever they say something :D